I generally like to keep out of the controversial stuff. I find it is just easier that way. However, on this particular topic, I do not feel I would be doing my duty as women to not respond to the CASA incident with Mr. Kuhn.
I do like Mr. Kuhn, I always have. I think he is very "in your face" and I feel like you always know where you stand with him.
I was very shocked by his character in the recent pageant for CASA. The first thing I would like to address is the "black face" as David Allen stated. I think that he was trying to be tan, and had the wrong color make-up. He does have a body suit on that is tan... and it not too far fetched that perhaps he is trying to be "beauty contestant" After looking at many of the pictures, I really believe that he was not thumbing his finger at our community by being "black faced". (I could be wrong... and really only Mr. Kuhn knows what his intentions were)
I do, however have a huge problem with the name that he used for his character.
You might think that I am being overly "sensitive", that I am reading too much into it... so what he was just kidding you what's the big deal? The fact is I am a career women in a mans world. The big deal is, it is hard enough to teach my girls (or really any of the young girls within our community) that it is doable in todays society to be a career women, and that women are equal in today's working world with out having a situation like Mr. Kuhn put out there to explain.
As an elected official of this community, whether he likes it or not, Mr Kuhn has a certain image that he is expected to live up to. I find it appalling that he used that name to represent himself. As if he did not know that would not make the news!
I find it even more appalling that it was on the front page of both newspapers in the county. We have schools that subscribe to the paper, newsworthy or not, why should we even publish the name?
I really do believe that this is a horrible injustice to women within this community. And I do believe that as working women, I have every right to have this feeling. I am sure that I will have others out there that will feel different. I guess my thoughts on that are, if you are not a women... you really don't count in my opinion. If you are women, regardless on whether you agree or disagree, that is your right... because you live it.
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
I think I'm hot!
I grew up during the 80's and 90's. I was a product of the "boy band" surge. When I was Maya's age (8 or 9) the New Kids on The Block hit the scene. I was in love! I followed the dear boys until 8th grade, and then I lost interest. Sounds like everyone else did too, because they stopped making music.
Flash forward 15 years later, and they are back on the scene! In my opinion they are better than ever. There have been many debates in my family about these five men in the past few months. Matt is not a fan, and will roll his eyes at anything that is said about them. Maya likes the old stuff (because I have the greatest hits CD and due to content I have not allowed her to listen to the new cd) however she still says they are not as good as the Jonas Brothers. Meredith really does not care as long as she gets to sing and dance!
One of these debates came the other night at dinner. I was commenting on how much I love the new CD. I have to admit, I did not like it the first time I put it in, but after listening to it a few more times, I am hooked, and so in love again! This sparked Maya to say "Mom they are so old!" I told her that they were not old, she said that they were older than me, I said not by much, she said they looked really old! (Bla bla I know but I really have to get to where the meat of the conversation went) I assured her that they did not look old, they were just as cute as ever. (here's where the point comes in)
Upon hearing this, Maya's eye's got big and she said "Mom! Dad is sitting right there!" "So!" I shot back. Enter Matt in the conversation, he simply said that he was not worried, I am not hot enough or rich enough for him to worry.
(Hmm.... excuse me? Did he really say what I thought he said? Yep! He repeated it. Stupid man. But, I decided to play along, really after 9 years, nothing he says surprises me. And let's face it, if we are going to play this game, Matt is no new kids on the block!) He explained that you have your levels. You have hot, good looking, ok and eh. I fall into the "good looking" category. (Hmm, again I am interested in where this is going). So, then who is considered "Hot"? No pause, no skipping a beat "Jessica Simpson". (Really? Boobs and blond hair? You have got to be kidding me?) Oh yes he assures me, she is hot.
That ends the conversation, or really nothing good comes out of the rest of it. I did not yell, I laughed, it really was all good natured. I was smiling as was he, and there were no hurt feelings in the making of this conversation. (just wanted to clarify.)
I really can live with being Good Looking. I know I am not "Jessica Simpson" and Matt knows that he is not "Boy Band Quality". That is ok with me. I know that I wanted a husband that thought I was smart, and liked me for my mind, not just my looks. And I got lucky with that one. And even if I am not hot enough for my New Kids... a girl can still dream, can't she?
Flash forward 15 years later, and they are back on the scene! In my opinion they are better than ever. There have been many debates in my family about these five men in the past few months. Matt is not a fan, and will roll his eyes at anything that is said about them. Maya likes the old stuff (because I have the greatest hits CD and due to content I have not allowed her to listen to the new cd) however she still says they are not as good as the Jonas Brothers. Meredith really does not care as long as she gets to sing and dance!
One of these debates came the other night at dinner. I was commenting on how much I love the new CD. I have to admit, I did not like it the first time I put it in, but after listening to it a few more times, I am hooked, and so in love again! This sparked Maya to say "Mom they are so old!" I told her that they were not old, she said that they were older than me, I said not by much, she said they looked really old! (Bla bla I know but I really have to get to where the meat of the conversation went) I assured her that they did not look old, they were just as cute as ever. (here's where the point comes in)
Upon hearing this, Maya's eye's got big and she said "Mom! Dad is sitting right there!" "So!" I shot back. Enter Matt in the conversation, he simply said that he was not worried, I am not hot enough or rich enough for him to worry.
(Hmm.... excuse me? Did he really say what I thought he said? Yep! He repeated it. Stupid man. But, I decided to play along, really after 9 years, nothing he says surprises me. And let's face it, if we are going to play this game, Matt is no new kids on the block!) He explained that you have your levels. You have hot, good looking, ok and eh. I fall into the "good looking" category. (Hmm, again I am interested in where this is going). So, then who is considered "Hot"? No pause, no skipping a beat "Jessica Simpson". (Really? Boobs and blond hair? You have got to be kidding me?) Oh yes he assures me, she is hot.
That ends the conversation, or really nothing good comes out of the rest of it. I did not yell, I laughed, it really was all good natured. I was smiling as was he, and there were no hurt feelings in the making of this conversation. (just wanted to clarify.)
I really can live with being Good Looking. I know I am not "Jessica Simpson" and Matt knows that he is not "Boy Band Quality". That is ok with me. I know that I wanted a husband that thought I was smart, and liked me for my mind, not just my looks. And I got lucky with that one. And even if I am not hot enough for my New Kids... a girl can still dream, can't she?
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Yep... I am going Crazy again... or am I
So I feel like I could climb the walls. I am just a ball full of nervous energy. I have no idea why. I can guess! I have done a lot of guessing lately. I think that I have finally come to the conclusion that I just don't care anymore why I have an attitude and further more I am tired of guessing why. I am cranky and I just feel like slapping the crap out of some people. :) (I do mean than with all of the love in my heart). The good news is I have never actually slapped anyone. And I can control myself really well, so I do not think we have anything to worry about there. However, I am a little combative in my conversation. In fact, one of my friends has told me I have a really awful look that just in the last week has flared back up. He has suggested that I ask for a better "crazy" pill. (see why I have the urge to slap the crap out of people! And I am the one with the problem).
So, back to the whole "I don't care anymore" idea. I used the think that it was polite to let people know when I was a little off. To warn them that I am on edge, and cranky with not much patience. I have discovered that no one really cares about that. They just want you to be Miss Mary Sunshine, so that they don't have to deal with it. I see there point, but really don't you want to know when to "not poke the bear" as a good friend of mine says? I know I like have warnings. Of course letting others know that you are a little "edgy" usually gets a response like, how come? Do I really have to have reason? I used to think that yes, I had to have a reason. I have gone to major lengths to try and delve into the reason "why". And when I give my reason, then I get stupid responses on how I should not be cranky, I should get over it. ( really, thanks for that wealth of information... keep poking that bear stupid!)
That is what lead me to the conclusion, that I really don't know why I am cranky, and I really am tired of trying to figure it out. Maybe I was just born that way. I just have cranky times. It lasts for a few months, and then I am back to normal. I kind of like this new freedom. No pressure to figure out "whats wrong". So liberating!
So, back to the whole "I don't care anymore" idea. I used the think that it was polite to let people know when I was a little off. To warn them that I am on edge, and cranky with not much patience. I have discovered that no one really cares about that. They just want you to be Miss Mary Sunshine, so that they don't have to deal with it. I see there point, but really don't you want to know when to "not poke the bear" as a good friend of mine says? I know I like have warnings. Of course letting others know that you are a little "edgy" usually gets a response like, how come? Do I really have to have reason? I used to think that yes, I had to have a reason. I have gone to major lengths to try and delve into the reason "why". And when I give my reason, then I get stupid responses on how I should not be cranky, I should get over it. ( really, thanks for that wealth of information... keep poking that bear stupid!)
That is what lead me to the conclusion, that I really don't know why I am cranky, and I really am tired of trying to figure it out. Maybe I was just born that way. I just have cranky times. It lasts for a few months, and then I am back to normal. I kind of like this new freedom. No pressure to figure out "whats wrong". So liberating!
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